POST: 10
This past week in family relations class something that we talked about that really stood out to me was how in some cases the thought of more money to help the family really does not always help and can be a trap. This stood out to me because in my life I have personally seen what can happen when some of this occurs. For example, my mother has generally stayed at home throughout me and my siblings growing up but on occasion has picked up some part-time to full time jobs. Usually not making such a very recognizable difference in our lives, the jobs she has had to my opinion have actually not helped our family as much as they thought they would. It took away time that my mother would have had with the children as well as time from my father working. I feel as though my wonderful mother's talents and abilities are being squandered on other activities do not have as much of an impact on our family, as if they would being spent on the home and children. This may sound selfish or I may have some of the facts wrong or out of proportion but at least for me I feel better and happier when my mother is around, and I know that is worth a lot.
Sunday, November 25, 2012
Monday, November 19, 2012
POST: 9
This past week in family relations class a particular item we discussed perk my interest and that was of counsels and the counsel method. It was very interesting for me to see that in our church the counsel method of making decisions is practically all that we do, but for a reason. Counseling with each other and in groups is a very effective way of making decisions and making sure that what is best becomes the outcome. Counsels allow people to be very open with each other, come up with a consensus amongst a group ( not compromise), enable people to be honest with each other, be somewhat vulnerable to criticisms or advice, as well as being unified in purpose and in what gets accomplished. We found that even through the counsels with prophets and apostles big decisions are made and agreed upon and it is made easy to build trust and friendship between each other when these counsels are held properly.
This past week in family relations class a particular item we discussed perk my interest and that was of counsels and the counsel method. It was very interesting for me to see that in our church the counsel method of making decisions is practically all that we do, but for a reason. Counseling with each other and in groups is a very effective way of making decisions and making sure that what is best becomes the outcome. Counsels allow people to be very open with each other, come up with a consensus amongst a group ( not compromise), enable people to be honest with each other, be somewhat vulnerable to criticisms or advice, as well as being unified in purpose and in what gets accomplished. We found that even through the counsels with prophets and apostles big decisions are made and agreed upon and it is made easy to build trust and friendship between each other when these counsels are held properly.
Monday, November 12, 2012
POST 8:
This past week in Family Relations class we were able to more closely focus and look at crisis and drastic events within the family. A crisis is an event that necessitates change. The process of a crisis and in how to deal with and cope with it can be broken down into this model: A for the actual event, B for both resources and responses, C for cognitions or thoughts, and finally X that includes the total experience. To more fully understand this process here is an example of crisis that occurred in my life not too long ago.
First, the actual event. The day before I was to come out to BYU-I for college a pipe bursted in my home and my whole house upstairs and down was completely flooded. This had major damage to the interior of my house and to much of the furniture and other property inside.
Second, both resources and responses. That day we were able to call our insurance on our house and they were able to call our insurance on our house and they were able to cover all of it. They moved my family into a hotel for about a week and a half and then into a rental house, which my family is currently still in. I had extended family in our area that were also able to help us and that made it much easier to deal with.
Third, cognitions or thoughts. My thoughts throughout this whole event were that I was going to have to miss my whole first week of college. With my house, belongings, and family in sort of a disarray it was very inconvenient to leave and probably would have caused more problems anyway. As a new incoming freshman it was very hard to wrap my head around the fact that coming to college would be very different than I had previously imagined. Coming from a hotel, with not all of my family, and arriving the night before classes started not knowing where anything was or even how college worked at all I thought of myself at a disadvantage.
Finally, total experience. This crisis in my family was one that brought us closer together I believe. With no extreme lasting consequences, my family was resilient, we were able to bounce back in our time of chaos and handle what we needed to do. Everything worked out well with my school situation and the moment our house is getting an "extreme home makeover". Overall, I am grateful for this experience because even though it was tough at the time it has only made my family grow closer together and become stronger.
This past week in Family Relations class we were able to more closely focus and look at crisis and drastic events within the family. A crisis is an event that necessitates change. The process of a crisis and in how to deal with and cope with it can be broken down into this model: A for the actual event, B for both resources and responses, C for cognitions or thoughts, and finally X that includes the total experience. To more fully understand this process here is an example of crisis that occurred in my life not too long ago.
First, the actual event. The day before I was to come out to BYU-I for college a pipe bursted in my home and my whole house upstairs and down was completely flooded. This had major damage to the interior of my house and to much of the furniture and other property inside.
Second, both resources and responses. That day we were able to call our insurance on our house and they were able to call our insurance on our house and they were able to cover all of it. They moved my family into a hotel for about a week and a half and then into a rental house, which my family is currently still in. I had extended family in our area that were also able to help us and that made it much easier to deal with.
Third, cognitions or thoughts. My thoughts throughout this whole event were that I was going to have to miss my whole first week of college. With my house, belongings, and family in sort of a disarray it was very inconvenient to leave and probably would have caused more problems anyway. As a new incoming freshman it was very hard to wrap my head around the fact that coming to college would be very different than I had previously imagined. Coming from a hotel, with not all of my family, and arriving the night before classes started not knowing where anything was or even how college worked at all I thought of myself at a disadvantage.
Finally, total experience. This crisis in my family was one that brought us closer together I believe. With no extreme lasting consequences, my family was resilient, we were able to bounce back in our time of chaos and handle what we needed to do. Everything worked out well with my school situation and the moment our house is getting an "extreme home makeover". Overall, I am grateful for this experience because even though it was tough at the time it has only made my family grow closer together and become stronger.
Sunday, November 4, 2012
POST: 7
This week in family relations class we talked about physical intimacy within marriage. We discussed that this intimacy is important to bring the whole of the family together closer making a happier environment for all. It is key in expressing love and emotion between husband and wife. It obviously is needed for procreation and the building of families. This intimacy bonds the body, mind, and souls of spouses. In this act it can also one of the closest ways of being like God in that you are actually creating and making life. A great deal of having good intimacy is being attentive and thoughtful to your spouse and not being selfish but thinking of them and the greater purposes being intimate.
This week in family relations class we talked about physical intimacy within marriage. We discussed that this intimacy is important to bring the whole of the family together closer making a happier environment for all. It is key in expressing love and emotion between husband and wife. It obviously is needed for procreation and the building of families. This intimacy bonds the body, mind, and souls of spouses. In this act it can also one of the closest ways of being like God in that you are actually creating and making life. A great deal of having good intimacy is being attentive and thoughtful to your spouse and not being selfish but thinking of them and the greater purposes being intimate.
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